Muniba Mazari Baloch is a Pakistani activist, anchor artist, model, singer and motivational speaker. She is also Pakistan’s first model and anchor who uses a wheelchair. She uses a wheelchair due to injuries sustained in a car accident at the age of 21. And she’s also known as Iron Lady of Pakistan.
Let’s Get Started:
Thank you so much for all the love, for all Warm. Thank you for accepting me. Thank you very much, Okay, I always start my discussion with some rejection. And I have never claimed this disapproval, Be a motivational speaker.
Yes, I speak.
However I feel like a storyteller. Because wherever I go I’m a share story with everyone. You will not answer the power of words, Many speak before thinking.
However I know the value of words. Words can make you, break you, they can heal Your soul, they can harm you forever. So, I always try to use positive words in between Mother’s name. Everywhere I go,
They call it adversity, I call this is the opportunity.
They call it weakness, I call it strength.
They call me disabled, I call myself another Capable.
They see my disability, I see my power.
Some of this happened Your life. And these events are so loud that they are Change your DNA. Those events and accidents are so strong that they break you down physically.
They distort your body but they transform you the soul.
These events break you down, distort you, however, They make you into your best version.
And in my case the same thing happened. And I’m going to share exactly what happened. I was married 18 years of age . I belong to a very conservative family, the K Baloch family. My father wanted me to marry me and everyone, I said if it makes you happy, I will Say yes’. And of course, it was never a happy marriage.
Just 2 years after,
I got married, about 9 years ago, I encountered a car accident. Somehow my husband is asleep the car falls into a ditch. He saved himself by jumping.
I’m happy for him. However, I remain inside the car and I sustain a lot of injuries. My right arm was broken, the shins cracked, the shoulder bones and the collarbone broke. And the rib cage was swollen due to injury and the liver was badly injured.
I couldn’t breathe, I lost urine control. That’s why I always go where, I need to wear a bag. But those injuries have completely changed me and my life. As a person, my feeling of survival was a spinal cord injury in my life.
My spine is completely crushed. And I’ve been paralyzed all my life. Therefore, the accident occurred in the region of Balochistan where there was no first Assistance, no hospital, no ambulance. I was in the middle of nowhere. Many people came to the rescue. They pulled me out of the car.
When they were pulling me I got a complete spinal cord transaction. And now that the debate is going on, should
we put it here, he’s dying, or where Can we go, There was no ambulance. There was a Four Wheeler Jeep on the corner of the road.
They said, put him in the back of the jeep and 3 hours which took him to the hospital Away from this place. And I still think ump is the ride of the lump. I was all broken. They dropped me in the back of the jeep and
they drove me to the hospital. From there I realized that half my body was paralyzed and half my body was fragile.
Finally I ended up in a hospital where I stayed for two and a half months I had multiple surgeries. Doctors put a lot of titanium in my arm and I had a lot of titanium on my back To fix my back. Because of this, people in Pakistan called me ‘Iron Lady’ in Pakistan.
At times I wonder how easy it is for me to describe all this again. And someone has rightly said that when
you share your story and it doesn’t make you Crying, that means you are healing.
Two and a half months in the hospital, there was a drought. I will never do a story just to inspire you. I was at the doorstep of Des-Per. One day the doctor came to me and said, I heard you want to be an artist, But you end up being a housewife. I have bad news for you.
You will never be able to color again because, your wrists and arms are so distorted. You can no longer hold the pen.
And I kept quiet.
The next day, the doctor came to me and said that your spinal cord is so bad that you will not Able to walk again, I took a breath. And I said okay. Again, the next day the doctor came and told you, because of your spinal cord injury and your stability, If that is behind you, you will never be able to give birth to a child again.
That day, I was devastated.
I still remember, I ask my mom why me, and that’s where I started my question Existence.
Why Am I Alive?
What is the benefit of survival?
I can’t move, I can’t draw, okay. I can’t be a mother and we have these things in our heads that we are imperfect Free. By having children I am going to be an imperfect woman for the rest of my life.
What’s The matter?
People are scared that they think I’m divorced.
What’s going to happen to me?
Why me, Why am I alive?
We all try to pursue this tunnel. We all do it. Because we see lights at the end of the tunnel that keep us going. My dear friends, in my situation there was a tunnel that I had to roll but was there Light.
Words understood the power of the soul to heal. My mom told me that these are two sales-passes. You have a bigger plan for you. I don’t know what it is. But he certainly has. And all that misery and mourning, these words of mom were so magical that they kept it up, I’m going, I was trying to put a smile on my face all the time while hiding the pain.
There was something that was so difficult to hide, But I only knew that I would give up, my mother and my brother would leave. I can’t see them crying with me. One day what I was asking was doing to me, my brother, I know, I have a deformed hand, But I’m tired of seeing these white walls in the hospital and wearing these white scraps.
I’m getting tired of it. I want to add more color to my life, I want to do something. Bring me some color, I want to draw. So the first painting I made was on my deathbed. It was simply an art piece, not just my passion.
It was my therapy. What an amazing therapy it was. Without a word I can draw my heart out. I could share my story. People would come in and say, wow, what a beautiful picture ‘.
So much color, nobody sees the pain in it. Only i can, So I spend my two and a half hours in the hospital a few months. Painting without lying, never complaining or shouting. And then I was exempt. And I went back home. And I realized that I had made a lot of improvements to my back pressure, pressure ulcers to my hipbone.
I couldn’t sit, I had a lot of infections throughout my body, allergies a lot. So the doctor wanted me to lie straight in bed . Not for six months, not for 1 year, but for two years I was locked in it. A room outside the window looks at the
birds screaming and thinking.
There will be times when we go out to enjoy family and nature. That time, where I realized how lucky people are but they don’t understand. That was the time I realized, the day, I was going to sit down, I was going to share this pain, Realizing how blessed they are, even when they do not feel so lucky.
There are always turning points in your life. There was a rebirth I celebrated. Two and a half years later, I was able to sit in a wheelchair. That day I was born again. I was a completely different person. The day I sat in a wheelchair, I still remember for the first time that I would never go, I live it without knowing I will never walk.
I looked in the mirror. And I talked about my self. I still remember what I said. I can’t wait for a miracle to come and
I walk. I can’t sit in the corner of the room crying, playful and courteous because someone is There is time So, I have to accept my self, the way I am, the sooner the better.
So, I applied lip color for the first time. And I deleted it. And I cried and I said what I was doing. No one in a wheelchair should do this.
What Will people say?
It’s clear. Put it back, I kept it to myself. Because I want to feel perfect from the inside. And that day I decided I was going to have a life of mine. “I’m not going to be that perfect person, I’m going to take this moment and I will make it perfect for me.”
And you know, how do we all get started?
That day I decided I would fight the fear. We all have fears, Fear of unknown, fear of knowing. Fear of losing people.
Health, fear of losing money.
We want to be the best in the career.
We want to be famous
We want to get money. We are scared all the time. So I wrote it down, all the fears. And I decided that I was going to defeat them once fears fears You know what my biggest fear was?
I couldn’t stand the word. I was trying to catch this person who didn’t want me anymore, But I said no, I have to make it work. But the day I decided it was nothing but my fears, I released myself by releasing him.
And I made myself so strong in the senses that on the day I got the news that she was getting married, I sent him a text and said, ‘I am very happy for you and your best wishes And he knows that I pray for him today.
Two of my biggest fears were I would never be a mother again and that was quite a lot Devastating for me. But I understand that there are so many children here in the world that what they want is acceptance. So crying makes no sense, just go and accept one.
That’s what I did.
I gave my name to different organizations, different orphanages. I didn’t mention, I’m in a wheelchair, dying for a child. So I said then this is Muniba Mazari and he wants to be adopted, boy and girl so ever. However I would like to be accepted and I have waited patiently.
Two years later, I received a call from a very small town in Pakistan.
They said, “Are you Muniba Mazari?”
Have a baby boy, Do you want to accept And when I said ‘yes’, I could literally feel the pain of labor.
Yes yes, I will accept him. I’m coming to take her home. And when I got there, the man was sitting there looking at me from head to Toe, Don’t judge me, I’m in a wheelchair.
Do you know what he said, ‘I know you would do it to be the best mother of this child. Both of you are lucky to have each other ‘. And that day he was two days old and today he is six. You would be surprised to know the greater fear that was in me.
It was facing people. I used to hide from people. When I was in bed for two years and I used to keep the door closed. I used to pretend that I was not being seen by anyone. Tell them I’m sleeping.
You know why, Because the empathy that I couldn’t stand was for me. They used to treat me like a patient. When I was laughing, looking at me and saying, ‘You are smiling, all right’. I was tired of asking this question.
Are you sick Well, an airport lady asked me, ‘I’m sick’. And I said, well, injury to this spine as well , I’m fine I guess.
These were really nice questions. When I was in bed they never felt cute . So I used to hide from people without knowing it, oh my god I’m not going to see that sympathy In their eyes, All right. Today I am talking about all the wonderful people here.
Because I overcome fear.
You know when you end up in a wheelchair, what’s the most painful thing? That’s another fear. People in wheelchairs, who are different, are able to have their heart but never share it. I’ll share with you. Lack of acceptance.
People think they will not be accepted by the people because we and the world Absolute people are imperfect. So, I decided instead to start an INGO, an NGO that I know for awareness of the disabled Not helping anyone, I started to appear more in public, I started to paint.
I always wanted to. I have a lot of exhibits in favor of Pakistan, I have done many modeling campaigns, different Promote for brands like Tony and the guy. I’ve done some really fun breaking modeling barriers.
Here was one called Clown Town
where I became Clown because I know
There are Clowns
So, when you accept yourself, you are yourself, the world recognizes you. It all starts from the inside. I am a national greeter of UN Women, Pakistan And now I’m speaking on behalf of women’s rights and having children.
We talk about inclusion, diversity, gender equality which is a must. For 2015 I featured 100 women from the BBC. Forbes is one of 30 under 30 for 2016 And it didn’t happen all alone. May all of you prosper in your career.
You have bigger dreams and aspirations in life. Always remember one thing on the way to success Success is always ‘We’ I ‘No’. Don’t think you can achieve things alone. No, there’s always somebody standing behind you, probably not coming Support you, in front, behind you.
Never lose a Person person. Ever I couldn’t find a hero to say as much . So I became one. I still want to recognize these three people in my life who literally changed my life completely. And I let them get inspiration from every single one, Even when I was, the women who trusted me completely were on the verge of dis-par Everyone left, he was there.
And every time, I was staring at her. He looked at me and said, This is a sale pass Shavar has a big plan. One day you will say oh my, Shawar, that is why God has chosen me. He never cried in front of me.
He always said that there would be enemies,
there would be naysayers , there would be disbelievers
And you’ll be there to prove them wrong.
Whatever I am today, I am nothing but Him. I am nothing but him. Thanks, mama, I hope you stayed here. Thank you for making me, who I am today. You know what our people have problems with. We always expect life. We have these amazing fantasies about life. Things should work this way. This is my plan. It should be done according to my plan.
If that doesn’t happen, we give up. So my dear friends, let me tell you one thing. I never wanted to be in a wheelchair. Never thought about being in a wheelchair. I’ve always been interested in something bigger. And I had no idea, for that, I had to pay the price for where I am today.
It’s a very heavy price. This life is a test and an experiment. Tests are trial, I never meant to be easy and why you are
every hope of life. And life gives you lemons. And you make the sunset. And then don’t blame it for life For that.
Because you expected it from every test. Judgment builds you into a more powerful person.
Life is an experiment.
Each time you understand it.
It’s okay to be scared.
The cry is okay.
Everything is fine But giving up is not an option, should not be an option.
They always say that failure is not an option. Failure should be an option. When you fail, you get up and then you fail, then you get up, which keeps you going.
That is how humans are powerful. A failure is an option. This should be an option. But not giving up. Ever, We have this thing in our mind.
We call it perfection.
We want everything to be perfect.
We want our self to be perfect.
The perfect life, the perfect relationship, the perfect career, the perfect amount of money Earn whatever.
Nothing in this world is perfect.
We are all completely imperfect.
And that’s perfectly fine.
You were sent here without being a perfect human. How to tell you how to look perfect even those people are imperfect. Trying to fight this fear of looking imperfect. I was perfect I still remember I received these supplements, years ago, when I used to walk .
OMG, you see, you are very fair, you are tall, you are perfect, Look at me now. The perfect eye can only see it. Only the right eye can see it. So yes. And you will hear all those imperfections in your heart.
You don’t have to look good to people. You don’t just have to be perfect other people want you to be perfect. If your soul is perfect from within.
This is all you want.
This is what you need to be.
Our society has made a very strange, very strange kind of ideal to look perfect in grades. It’s different for a human being. This is different for any woman. We worry too much about what people say. We hear very little about ourselves.
You know what makes you perfect.
When you make someone laugh.
When you know what makes you perfect is to do something good for the people around You.
You know what makes you perfect.
When you feel someone’s pain
And what a beautiful pain it connects with people. No other medium can attach you to another but it
That’s why I always say I’m in pain. It’s a blessing to me. Today, only because I’m in pain and I’m in a wheelchair, I work for kids. Being the head of the CSRF of the companies we manage, the treatment camps in remote areas of Pakistan Where so many children died because they have no medical facilities.
And I personally believe that just because they cannot afford to survive, That we will let them die.
So we pay them, we treat them, We try to heal their wounds.
Physical and Sensitive.
And I also work for our beautiful people, tell them the third gender. Hijra community in Pakistan. You know, what connects me to them. All my imperfections. They never judge me when I hug them and this is my best friend.
His name is Bizley. Lightning means electricity. He called himself Lightning. And I said you are lightning?
She says ‘no’. I’m burning I’m as strong as a thunderbolt.
He came to me and I hugged him for the first time and said you were just like me. And I said I’m like you. Because to people, we are so imperfect. So how nice is this imperfection. Because of this incompleteness you can connect with
people then why are we all leaving behind Being perfect.
What’s the matter?
Every time I go public. I smile And people asked me, ‘You won’t be tired, all the time,’ what a mystery. I always say one thing. I lost the things I was concerned about , the people I lost.
The things and the people, I was with are with me. And sometimes missing something makes you a better person. Losing their absence. It is always a blessing.
I always say that people are so lucky that even they don’t understand, you must be thinking.
You are lucky in that sense. Well, the breath you just took was a blessing. Embrace it. There are many people on earth who dream of living the life you are living Right now.
You have no idea, You embrace every breath you take.
Celebrate your life.
Don’t die before you die.
We all die
We live it a regular life for 75 days a year and we call it life. No that’s not life. If you still think about you, here’s how.
If you are still awake to the idea why you are here, you are still not alive.
You work hard
You make money.
You do it for yourself.
This is not life. Find the help you need when you go out . You make their lives better. You add color to their lives, you add value to their lives You become the sponge that removes all the negativity.
You can be the person who can emit beautiful vibrations positively and when you realize that you are Someone’s life has changed And because of you, this person didn’t give up.
That’s it, The day, when you live, always. We were talking about gratitude. That’s why I laugh all the time. I cried all night when no one saw me.
Because I’m a human and I have to balance it. And I laugh all day because I know that if, I laugh I can make people laugh, it does I’m going Thank you for what you have.
And you will always end up always with more stay.
If you cry, if you talk shit, the little things you don’t have. Things you lost, You will never be enough. Sometimes we are too busy thinking about this that we do not have things.
Receive the blessings we have. I’m not saying that I’m not healthy makes me unlucky, But yes, it’s tough. It hurts when I say I can’t walk. When I say it’s hard to Wear that bag.
The pain is there
But I have to keep going.
Because never giving up is not the way to live. Always. Very well, finish my talk, on a very short note. Live your life to the fullest. Take it the way you are, Be kind to yourself
Be kind to yourself
I repeat, be kind to yourself.
And only then do we,Be kind to others.
Love yourself, Spread that love.
Life will be difficult, There will be turmoil, there will be justice. But it will make you stronger. Never give up. Real happiness does not fall into money or success or fame.
I have everything and I never wanted it.Real happiness lies in gratitude. So be thankful and live and live in the
moment for everyone .
Thank you very much everyone
– Muniba Mazari Baloch